urgent help as my wife"petitioner" threaten to withdraw her petitioning.

[lexlugga]

My good people, I have been participating on this forum for some time now, i have not seen a case like this, I don't know if anyone has similar case.

My wife and I married since last year September. Everything seems great, she petition for my form i-485, and my case was approved and the USCIS mailed my green card, but it was lost by USPS, and I apply for form i-90 for replacement which am still waiting for them to resend me my card. But I don't even know how many years card they will send that is 1. Then 2, my wife started listening to her friends lately, and her friends told her they don't believe our marriage is real, without any traces of manipulation, that I must have married her wit the Intention to get green card. Omg, this broke my heart so much as my wife that love me so much before now ,started acted on what her friend told her, and I love her wit all my life. We live together, do things together. Right now. She is totally acting differently, threatening to report me to the immigration that I received her.

This is now coursing a big problem and division in our love life. Right now, we don't talk to each other, make love , even kiss each other again. Pls do any one have any idea on what to do. Apparently she has decided not to sign for my conditions to be removed by USCIS. And this is aggravating me right due to her turn off. I want to save our marriage. I love her so much. But right now, she doesn't believe me again rather her dubious single mother friend that is not attracted to any man feeding her with such negative information. Pls wat should I do? Many people asking me to petition her for a hardship, and cruel, but i don't want to go that extent,but I believe there is alternative or plan B to save this situation if she finally go to immigration to denounce her petitioning.

Pls I will be very grateful to receive or welcome any suggestion , advises on either to safe this marriage or filing to remove condition without her signature or following me to interview where necessary.

[bandk]

Save your marriage. Period.
Also she should not be manipulated like this. Try to help her. This is a ridiculous reason if she acts like this after her friends words.



If you guys are not doing well and divorce then you can apply for condition removal with your divorce decree. If she won't accept divorce but waste time then you can file divorce.
But... your priority should be your marriage. Save it..

[helpmylife]

This is very interesting to say the least. How could your wife be persuaded so easily with words from her friends that you are using her for a GC? Surely there would have to be good reason for her to believe this could be true. Where did your relationship go wrong? What did you do to make her have 2nd thoughts about your love? These are the things you need to figure out.

I just can believe that nothing happened between the two of you and now she all of a sudden thinks your using her. Unless she is using this as an escape goat for getting a divorce, this just doesnt make sense.

Do what you need to do if you truly love her, you need to win her back. Need to act like adults and work it out and speak about whatever may have come between you. There must be much more going on in her head to be manipulated so easily by her friends, more less even you.

If you cant restore your connection and need to head for divorce then you can always remove those conditions of her being your petitioner.

[kabkaba]

Communicate with your wife. Get help, marriage counseling.

[lexlugga]

Thank u all for this advise. @,help my life, u have not done anything wrong with my wife. What is saying was that, bcos I could not put her name in my second bank account, therefore, the marriage is not real. I though her, that is not enough reason to conclude that. After all, my we have chase bank that is our joint account, which she suck the money in the bank like honey and juice. So I saw the way she is withdrawing the money , i decided not to include her name on my second bank account. I am the one who take care of all the bills, food and her comfort. I never cheated on her, even thou sometimes she denied me of sex it never bother me, i still care about her,so this manipulation started recently after helping her to complete her disability requirements.

Sometimes when am praying, I have to laid my hand on head to rebuke every wrong information , she look at it funny. Right now is becoming out of control bcos she felt my life is in her hand. Threatening to call immigration on me as if am a common criminal or a fugitive in my country. Even to an extent , I told her to do her worse bcos this is becoming out of control.

Right now, we don't longer love each other. But divorcing her to remove my condition immigration always hard on that. Well, I will kept doing my research on what to do. I really appreciate all of u for taking time to advise me. God bless:

[bandk]

Communicate with her your concerns. Tell her she should not use immigration to threaten you. Nothing should be used between couples to threaten each other. If you two want to work it out you need a new approach. she spending irresponsibly is not acceptable as well. If you are a real family you need to work this out.
She cannot do any harm by false accusations but undermine your marriage. She might need help. She might have lost focus. If you are her husband you should try to fix this not look for an easy way out for immigration. If your marriage is beyond repair you can file divorce and get conditions removed. Do not worry much about it. Just focus to your marriage. You do not have much right to turn against her this quick if you really care for her.

[lexlugga]

Thank u very much . I will do my best to fix it, if things doesn't work out. I have to let it go, after all even Immigrants has law that protect them in this country , let alone a resident permit despite is conditional.

She think she can stroll me cos she petition for me. Just like Wat u all have rightly advised , if I couldn't repair or fix it, I will seek for divorce to waive my condition that is on my permanent resident.