Can Abusive Wife File for VAWA?

[Guest]

If this si the wrong board, please move it to correct one. Was not sure where to post this.
After so long of much verbal abuse, destructiveness, threats, and some physical abuse, my wife was arrested in April. I had to protect the children from what they saw and heard her doing for the last time.
So, she was arrested. Two days in jail. She has a six month protection order granted by a judge (I did this through InterAct) against her (she fiddled with the truth for me to get the whole year I wanted), but then the State of NC, for her crime. put her in abuse and anger classes and when done, her record could be expunged. Now I agreed to that, because I am not to ruin her life. Along with it, I asked for a year of her to stay away. So that is in effect until July 2018.
Now she has not lived here since her arrest.
She has no SS# (because the SSA screwed up her last name) and we never saved money in time for AOS, because rent went up, car repairs, etc. So that was never started. Only thing was K1 visa. We never even got to celebrate one year of marriage. It would have been in July.
Last I heard she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, maybe that is a ruse.
So with all that, can she file and win a VAWA case and stay in this country?
Thank you.

[azblk]

If this si the wrong board, please move it to correct one. Was not sure where to post this.
After so long of much verbal abuse, destructiveness, threats, and some physical abuse, my wife was arrested in April. I had to protect the children from what they saw and heard her doing for the last time.
So, she was arrested. Two days in jail. She has a six month protection order granted by a judge (I did this through InterAct) against her (she fiddled with the truth for me to get the whole year I wanted), but then the State of NC, for her crime. put her in abuse and anger classes and when done, her record could be expunged. Now I agreed to that, because I am not to ruin her life. Along with it, I asked for a year of her to stay away. So that is in effect until July 2018.
Now she has not lived here since her arrest.
She has no SS# (because the SSA screwed up her last name) and we never saved money in time for AOS, because rent went up, car repairs, etc. So that was never started. Only thing was K1 visa. We never even got to celebrate one year of marriage. It would have been in July.
Last I heard she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, maybe that is a ruse.
So with all that, can she file and win a VAWA case and stay in this country?
Thank you.

Yes she can if she is a good lair and actor.

[Papijace963]

domestic abuse

If this si the wrong board, please move it to correct one. Was not sure where to post this.
After so long of much verbal abuse, destructiveness, threats, and some physical abuse, my wife was arrested in April. I had to protect the children from what they saw and heard her doing for the last time.
So, she was arrested. Two days in jail. She has a six month protection order granted by a judge (I did this through InterAct) against her (she fiddled with the truth for me to get the whole year I wanted), but then the State of NC, for her crime. put her in abuse and anger classes and when done, her record could be expunged. Now I agreed to that, because I am not to ruin her life. Along with it, I asked for a year of her to stay away. So that is in effect until July 2018.
Now she has not lived here since her arrest.
She has no SS# (because the SSA screwed up her last name) and we never saved money in time for AOS, because rent went up, car repairs, etc. So that was never started. Only thing was K1 visa. We never even got to celebrate one year of marriage. It would have been in July.
Last I heard she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, maybe that is a ruse.
So with all that, can she file and win a VAWA case and stay in this country?
Thank you.

where u the abuser... ir was it her who was the abuser... do u have the abuse documented

[Guest]

where u the abuser... ir was it her who was the abuser... do u have the abuse documented

She was. I have years of verbal abuse and threats in emails and chat logs.
The police arrested her because they saw damage to my skin while she was waiting for them in the bedroom she torn apart and kids in another room crying.

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Yes she can if she is a good lair and actor.

Even though she was arrested and has protection orders against her?

[Papijace963]

trust and depend on the law

She was. I have years of verbal abuse and threats in emails and chat logs.
The police arrested her because they saw damage to my skin while she was waiting for them in the bedroom she torn apart and kids in another room crying.

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Even though she was arrested and has protection orders against her?

i understand... But remember the laws of this country are peculiar especially when it comes to women, but be strong! The just dont always lose the battle. be focus on getting her out of ur life, and getting ur kids, ur family and urself some normalcy... she came with her intentions and it seems u where only a gate way to those intentions... be strong brother, i got u in my prayers

[NettieL]

VAWA is for the victim of domestic violence, not the perpetrator.

[Guest]

VAWA is for the victim of domestic violence, not the perpetrator.

azblk stated that she can trick them in that she was the victim. There is a possibility she went to the same abused client I went to. I only been there once too when all this was early, because I can not get a ride there nor miss anymore work still. She did tell the pastor once last year she would lie to get me in trouble.
I do not know about her or her where abouts in months.

I am still trying to figure what else I need to do before April, and how to find a lawyer (at no cost since I can not afford it, with rent going up, still can not afford a car, and not like my pay going up [believe me, I am always looking for a second job {for years}]) to assist me with all this since I have no idea looking at these divorce forms online how it all works, especially without knowing where she may be. All I know is, I need to file the first minute of the first day before she does, so things can be on my terms (a clean one in NC).

I just want her with her family and safe, and then spend the rest of my life not thinking about her being with other men.

Just sucks. I am still so devastated. I think about all the good times, but then all the bad times and the things she did.