Help with Green Card Marriage Process

[cheathac]

Hi everyone! I'm posting here to hopefully get some help with our situation. I have been currently dating an immigrant here in the U.S. on a student visa. After dating for 10 months we've decided to get married. We understand it is a long process and want to be done with it by the time we are both done with school. He is studying cybersecurity and I am in veterinary school (have my BS). Couple of things: My family knows of the reltionship and approves of the relationship. However, they won't support the marriage until I am out of school (2.5 more years). Therefore, they're not going to be at the wedding. We are just planning on having a courthouse ceremony and going out to eat afterwards. I will have 2 friends there and he will have some family there. We will have a larger ceremony after school with my family hopefully (In 2021). Can we still pass if the marriage is hidden from my parents? Our evidence will be as follows: joint bank account, credit card account, life insurance beneficiary, lots of pics of wedding/dating/will get more with family/etc, joint lease with shared utilities/affidavits from a friend of mine and his family/, electronic communications (********/calls), receipts of rings,wedding dress/wedding invitations with short list of attendees/my new drivers license with updated address. Will this be enough? I won't have all of this at time of filing. We plan to get married in February, file early March and will start living together in May. And until he gets his SSN, he can be added to life insurance. He is 4 years older than me (I am 22 and he is 26), we speak the same language, same religion. Any help is much appreciated.

[bobm445]

You can get married quietly and still have the evidence. A lot of People do. I only had 1 family member at mine, my wifes daughter. He can get a Tin Number so you can do the joint banking and it works on health and life ins and your Taxes. That's all we had until about a month before the interview when she got her EAD and SSN. Good Luck

[cheathac]

You can get married quietly and still have the evidence. A lot of People do. I only had 1 family member at mine, my wifes daughter. He can get a Tin Number so you can do the joint banking and it works on health and life ins and your Taxes. That's all we had until about a month before the interview when she got her EAD and SSN. Good Luck

Awesome. Thank you. Will look into this Tin number, but since I am getting married this year and not last year, he wouldn't go on my 2018 return right (due April 2019). He has insurance through school and we may see if he can add me to that. As far as taxes, not sure I can add him because I think my parents still have me as a dependent on their form? We would have to file separately until after the big wedding. Should I just file by myself now or wait until we get married next month and file separately? If my parents don't have me as a dependent (I will ask them), then I should be able to file together right?

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Awesome. Thank you. Will definitely add him to my life insurance once he gets an SSN. He has insurance through school and we may see if he can add me to that. As far as taxes, not sure I can add him because I think my parents still have me as a dependent on their form? We would have to file separately until after the big wedding. Should I just file by myself now or wait until we get married next month and file separately? If my parents don't have me as a dependent (I will ask them), then I should be able to file together right?

I also want to add him to my advanced care directive. I found some forms to fill out. Do I need to send these anywhere to the state or can I send a copy with the immigration I-30 packet?

[bobm445]

[QUOTE=cheathac;594305]Awesome. Thank you. Will look into this Tin number, but since I am getting married this year and not last year, he wouldn't go on my 2018 return right (due April 2019). He has insurance through school and we may see if he can add me to that. As far as taxes, not sure I can add him because I think my parents still have me as a dependent on their form? We would have to file separately until after the big wedding. Should I just file by myself now or wait until we get married next month and file separately? If my parents don't have me as a dependent (I will ask them), then I should be able to file together right?

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This could be a roadblock to the silent marriage. Once you are married you no longer are a dependent of your parents I believe ?? if you get married in 2019 you have to file married. Jointly would be the way to go as the rates are lower. Not sure what kind of money you make but you get a bigger deduction too. But you have a year to sort that out. Looks better at interview if you file together. Co mingle your finances.

[Wishingonastar]

The fact of having a small ceremony without your parents won't be an issue. My husband and I had our I-130 approved and we just had his parents there as witnesses. If I've understood your post correctly, I would ask yourself though, how this is going to affect your relationship with your parents. Will you be ok lying to them for such a long time? You are 22, and an adult. I would explain to them that you're getting married and you will be whether you have their support in it or not. Filing either way, it shouldn't go against you. Lots of people have marriages that their family don't approve of. Honesty really is the best policy. As a parent myself, i would be absolutely devastated if my child got married without telling me.. a lot more than if they did it, I was aware but didn't approve. I think providing you have enough evidence of your relationship you should be fine. I haven't been able to get on any of my husband's things as I don't have my SSN yet, the only thing I'm on is the car insurance and our petition was still approved. Really think about what's best here!

[cheathac]

[QUOTE=bobm445;594309]

Awesome. Thank you. Will look into this Tin number, but since I am getting married this year and not last year, he wouldn't go on my 2018 return right (due April 2019). He has insurance through school and we may see if he can add me to that. As far as taxes, not sure I can add him because I think my parents still have me as a dependent on their form? We would have to file separately until after the big wedding. Should I just file by myself now or wait until we get married next month and file separately? If my parents don't have me as a dependent (I will ask them), then I should be able to file together right?

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This could be a roadblock to the silent marriage. Once you are married you no longer are a dependent of your parents I believe ?? if you get married in 2019 you have to file married. Jointly would be the way to go as the rates are lower. Not sure what kind of money you make but you get a bigger deduction too. But you have a year to sort that out. Looks better at interview if you file together. Co mingle your finances.

I've done some research online that I can file separately and it would be fine just make sure only 1 person is claiming me. I haven't filed my taxes this year yet. Since I wasn't married by December 31st, I have to file single this year correct? Is it ok if I file it right now before we send the packet in? I don't make anything because I'm currently a full time student. I only make 5/6 thousand during the summer and maybe 1000 via part time jobs during the school year, so I have loans.

[bobm445]

[QUOTE=cheathac;594312]

I've done some research online that I can file separately and it would be fine just make sure only 1 person is claiming me. I haven't filed my taxes this year yet. Since I wasn't married by December 31st, I have to file single this year correct? Is it ok if I file it right now before we send the packet in? I don't make anything because I'm currently a full time student. I only make 5/6 thousand during the summer and maybe 1000 via part time jobs during the school year, so I have loans.

Yes you can file this year, you are still single

[okccanary]

Hi everyone! I'm posting here to hopefully get some help with our situation. I have been currently dating an immigrant here in the U.S. on a student visa. After dating for 10 months we've decided to get married. We understand it is a long process and want to be done with it by the time we are both done with school. He is studying cybersecurity and I am in veterinary school (have my BS). Couple of things: My family knows of the reltionship and approves of the relationship. However, they won't support the marriage until I am out of school (2.5 more years). Therefore, they're not going to be at the wedding. We are just planning on having a courthouse ceremony and going out to eat afterwards. I will have 2 friends there and he will have some family there. We will have a larger ceremony after school with my family hopefully (In 2021). Can we still pass if the marriage is hidden from my parents? Our evidence will be as follows: joint bank account, credit card account, life insurance beneficiary, lots of pics of wedding/dating/will get more with family/etc, joint lease with shared utilities/affidavits from a friend of mine and his family/, electronic communications (********/calls), receipts of rings,wedding dress/wedding invitations with short list of attendees/my new drivers license with updated address. Will this be enough? I won't have all of this at time of filing. We plan to get married in February, file early March and will start living together in May. And until he gets his SSN, he can be added to life insurance. He is 4 years older than me (I am 22 and he is 26), we speak the same language, same religion. Any help is much appreciated.

Just want to check that you guys make enough money to pass the financial requirement part of the visa. Otherwise you will need a sponsor and from what I have seen most people use a family member.

[JunkMart]

Hi everyone! I'm posting here to hopefully get some help with our situation. I have been currently dating an immigrant here in the U.S. on a student visa. After dating for 10 months we've decided to get married. We understand it is a long process and want to be done with it by the time we are both done with school. He is studying cybersecurity and I am in veterinary school (have my BS). Couple of things: My family knows of the reltionship and approves of the relationship. However, they won't support the marriage until I am out of school (2.5 more years). Therefore, they're not going to be at the wedding. We are just planning on having a courthouse ceremony and going out to eat afterwards. I will have 2 friends there and he will have some family there. We will have a larger ceremony after school with my family hopefully (In 2021). Can we still pass if the marriage is hidden from my parents? Our evidence will be as follows: joint bank account, credit card account, life insurance beneficiary, lots of pics of wedding/dating/will get more with family/etc, joint lease with shared utilities/affidavits from a friend of mine and his family/, electronic communications (********/calls), receipts of rings,wedding dress/wedding invitations with short list of attendees/my new drivers license with updated address. Will this be enough? I won't have all of this at time of filing. We plan to get married in February, file early March and will start living together in May. And until he gets his SSN, he can be added to life insurance. He is 4 years older than me (I am 22 and he is 26), we speak the same language, same religion. Any help is much appreciated.

Congratulations! Based on what you have written, you should have more than enough evidence to satisfy USCIS. It makes no difference whether your parents approve or attend your ceremony. USCIS understands that not every family is picture perfect. My husband's family did not attend our ceremony as they do not approve of same-sex marriage. Their loss. It was a lovely ceremony with a couple of his friends, and my family. Afterwards, we all went out to eat. FYI - we didn't even do rings.

[pmf123]

who will sponsor your new husband?

[bethzly]

Do not mail it to texas,they won't touch it until the government is reopened, i send my since December 12th, I'm still waiting, I'm crossing my fingers

[pmf123]

Immigration is funded by your fees, not the government.

[cheathac]

Just want to check that you guys make enough money to pass the financial requirement part of the visa. Otherwise you will need a sponsor and from what I have seen most people use a family member.

His uncle will sponsor. He is a citizen here now.

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Congratulations! Based on what you have written, you should have more than enough evidence to satisfy USCIS. It makes no difference whether your parents approve or attend your ceremony. USCIS understands that not every family is picture perfect. My husband's family did not attend our ceremony as they do not approve of same-sex marriage. Their loss. It was a lovely ceremony with a couple of his friends, and my family. Afterwards, we all went out to eat. FYI - we didn't even do rings.

That is so great to hear! Thanks you! And congratulations to you!!!! We will do rings but there wasn't ever a true proposal. We were both just like why not? We love one another and has been the best relationship I have ever been in. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him so we were like lets just do it.

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who will sponsor your new husband?

His uncle will! He is a citizen now. Came to the US on the visa lottery about 15-20 years ago got his GC and now citizenship. I spend a lot of time with them. They now have 4 little girls who I love to death.