help please!!

[gian]

my wife doesnt want to go to my interview with me for my conditional residence card and i dont know what to do, we'been having personal problems,, what can i do?

[thetreble]

This isn't a forum, to my knowledge, that provides professional therapy. So as far as asking what you should do about your wife, that is really your own problem. If you are having a lot of personal problems, maybe consider that getting your Green Card isn't such a good idea? If you are not getting along and and looking at possible divorce down the road, I would re-consider what you are doing. She needs to be there for you. I don't think you can go through with showing the interviewer your marriage is bonafide if she's not there.

[canadianinmd]

Well said, there is nothing you can do. She needs to be there for you. If she refuses then I would probably look in to divorcing.
Do you really want to spend your life with someone that is going to mess with your future like that?
Hopefully she will come through for you. Maybe you did somethign wrong? Go buy her flowers or do something nice for her and tell her you appreciate her.
Hope it works out

[henry521]

dont listen to them..flowers dont work when thing are this bad..what you need to do is slap some sense into her....you worked so hard to get here and she is being stupid......dont let her mess things up for you..drag her to the interview.................you're the boss.....

[poisontee]

" Drag her to the interview" mmmmh. That wouldn't work at all. Thats Not what I would advice anyone to do.

My take on this would be, One, Be as nice and polite about it as possible. Since you are married, you really should know the " one thing" your wife can't resist. It would be something like going "shopping", take her to her favorite " vacation spot" "restaurant e.tc. Be creative on ways to make her happy " at least past the interview. One, going for the interview is one thing and having her co-operative and answer the questions asked appropriately is another thing. Remember to have as much evidence as possible so that the Immigration officer has no doubt about your marriage. After all what you have gone through to make it this far, I would really try make it work out. if You were trully married to begin with, you have nothing to worry about. All the immigration care about is trying to see if your marriage was bona fide and not if your marriage is working or not. So if you have your evidence you have nothing to worry about.

Try make it work!

Good luck!

[poisontee]

This isn't a forum, to my knowledge, that provides professional therapy. So as far as asking what you should do about your wife, that is really your own problem. If you are having a lot of personal problems, maybe consider that getting your Green Card isn't such a good idea? If you are not getting along and and looking at possible divorce down the road, I would re-consider what you are doing. She needs to be there for you. I don't think you can go through with showing the interviewer your marriage is bonafide if she's not there.

thetreble-
Be polite. Put yourself in someones shoes and you will try understand what they are going through.

And Yes, you "can go through with showing the interviewer your marriage is bonafide if she's not there." The person has to file for divorce and the divorce has to be done with and then ask for the waiver to file jointly on the appication. With the initial evidence your marriage was bona fide, I have heard of cases which have been approved even after they file separately.

All Immigration care about is if your marriage was bona fide to begin with, not whether is working or not.

[thetreble]

Poisontree- I believe I was being polite. I, like many others on this board, are going through a lot of stuff that is enough to really get you down in the dumps. However, I don't expect someone on the internet to solve problems in my life or my relationship problems. This is a form to address issues of immigration. If you are having problems in your marriage and your wife won't even go with you to your interview, to me personally, that says that the person doesn't give a crap what you have been through to get to the US in the first place. If she won't do that, how are you going to live the next 40 years together? How horrible would it be if she agreed to the interview just to sabotage him when they got there? Humans are humans and you have to face reality as some point. Sometimes, things aren't meant to work out. I do feel bad for the poster and what he is going through, but he will continue to go through even more if he doesn't make a solid decision on what he should do. That decision can only be made by him.

Also, he said nothing about divorce or alluding to divorce. If he has no plans for divorce then does she not have to attend the interview? At the end of the day, if she's not going to attend, she's not going to attend.

[poisontee]

Poisontree- I believe I was being polite. I, like many others on this board, are going through a lot of stuff that is enough to really get you down in the dumps. However, I don't expect someone on the internet to solve problems in my life or my relationship problems. This is a form to address issues of immigration. If you are having problems in your marriage and your wife won't even go with you to your interview, to me personally, that says that the person doesn't give a crap what you have been through to get to the US in the first place. If she won't do that, how are you going to live the next 40 years together? How horrible would it be if she agreed to the interview just to sabotage him when they got there? Humans are humans and you have to face reality as some point. Sometimes, things aren't meant to work out. I do feel bad for the poster and what he is going through, but he will continue to go through even more if he doesn't make a solid decision on what he should do. That decision can only be made by him.

Also, he said nothing about divorce or alluding to divorce. If he has no plans for divorce then does she not have to attend the interview? At the end of the day, if she's not going to attend, she's not going to attend.

I Agree with you. Sometimes the wording too can be interpreted differently.
I just thought at first you were not Polite. Now I understand your point of view. Sometimes we gotta face the reality. Its true that someone giving headaches about the interview might not be in the marriage for long. Thats Just a sign that the marriage won't last long.

"How horrible would it be if she agreed to the interview just to sabotage him when they got there?" It would be "horrible". Thats why I was saying that making her go there is one thing and then her interview process is another.
And again, remember she can also get into federal law problem if she trying to saying the marriage was not really to begin with. She might make things more complicated than they are

Again, we can always seek attorneys advice for legal advice when cases starts to get complicated. Again, The G-28, Notice for attorney to represent someone has to be filled with the form if one wishes to be represented by one.

All in All I hope the Wifes gets some sense in her head and does his justice. SHe shouldn't make him go through all this crap.

I hear your point now!