what should I do to continue stay in usa?

[robin2000]

I am Muslim from Asia, married for love to American Muslim in US. Time lost, we applied later and went for immigration interview in July. Still I have not received a greencard yet.
Through our marriage, challenges comes non-stop which I did not expected to have in the marriage. All problems comes from my husband, having unstable job, backdated child support, rudeness, ungrateful for my support and unconditional love, unappreciate of my presence in his life.
I hate this marriage and need to divorce before I go completely crazy. But I am trap because I dont know what to do. Someone says wait for greencard, but it may be a long wait and I go through sorrows every other day because of my husband attitude and words.
Some advice me to ask for help from the state, but I dont want to feel like a refugees.
What do you think I should do? How can I continue to stay in the country with a greencard on my own. I already have ssc and ead. I just want to get a divorce, live alone, legally work, be happy single like I used to. After divorce I dare and hope marry again with a perfect match.

[hotelier73]

You need help!

Marriage is not that easy. When two different people, regardless if they have the same religion or not, come together, of course there are going to be some contradictions, arguments and so on. No one has or will ever have a perfect marriage. I do not know the circumstance under which you two met or became acquainted. But I can assure you that the interviewing officer must have noticed your situation while questioning you. Even if you get the green card, still you will have to be married at least for 3 years to the same citizen in order to apply for the citizenship. If you get divorced before that, then the burden is on you to prove it to USCIS that you did not enter into this marriage just to get around immigration laws. If your life is very miserable, and you go through physical, mental or verbal abuse just about every day where you get threatened by your US citizen spouse, then you might want to look into applying under VAWA(Violence Against Women Act) but again they don’t take into consideration average marriage stuff. But at the end it all comes down to you. You need to ask yourself some tough questions. Are you in this marriage just to get green card? If yes then sooner or later it will be caught by USCIS. If you do care about yourself then get separated and be over with it. Green card shouldn’t be reason holding you back. You sure need some help and please get it now before it is too late. I am not an attorney so please don't take my comments as such.

[robin2000]

thank you for your comments.
I am confuse, shame also for telling people my problem. I dont know what to do. I married in good faith, dream to work, as a team with my husband to get a home, live happy. But like I said he has a lot of problem, unstable job, and although I have helped a lot using my savings to get groceries, and cover my own expenses, he is rude, ungrateful, angry man.
I just want to be single, working, independent again like before. I am a shame to go back to my country. I dont care for citizenship, I love my born country. I just hope to learn, work and may be retire in my home country. My husband cannot even visit my country, he cannot make a passport because of backdated childsupport. I hope for the American dream but now i got is American BS. I feel empty, hate to be a refugees asking for help, but cannot be indendent because no greencard, and live miserable marriage with overeact, angry, selfish, user, pathetic husband. I married the wrong man. He would not divorce me also, unless I pack my stuff and ran out, then I dont have place to stay.

[hotelier73]

Think!

Immigration to USA isn't that easy. One must have lot of patience and confidence in the system. Some people do get green cards without any extra miles, but that should not make you doubtful about the process. Again, each case is unique shrouded by different circumstances, hence different paths towards the same goal. Some people take very calculated approach and follow the right rules in order to achieve their American Dream. Whereas others try to take short cuts and ignore the obstacles which might slow them down later on during their journey towards achieving their goal. We all try to do the best for us as well as for our families. But when we don't get what we planned for or we thought we would get, we put the blame on the system and become resentful, pointing the fingers towards others and just become angry and hate our lives. One can understand the level of frustration caused by the system, but that should not let you put down. Life is full of challenges so take one at a time and there is always a right moment for a right opportunity to come along to help you overcome your difficulties. For you I suggest seek help from your community or may be check with your local Islamic center.

[robin2000]

thank you for your advice. I did not know before how to search my previous question. Today I am able to read it slow since my husband is out to work. I know now people can only give some clues and good words including "you can call 911 for help or call the woman shelter to check if they have "vacancy" for you"
At the end of the day I am my own hero. I am looking at the problem as it is somebody else problem then I feel it is easier to tackle.
thanks for everyone advice.

[hotelier73]

Good!

Glad to hear that and I am sure you will be fine.