Marriage is failing while interview scheduled

[Aug2018_AOS]

Hello guys,

i am F-1 student here in USA. i met my wife 3 years ago and we got married last year in May 2018.
i am taking only one class per semester due to financial problems. so i am no longer F-1 student.

we were happy all the time but since January my wife has been fighting with me over nothing and always bringing Adjustment of status thing in all the argument and keep threatening me that she wont appear with me to the interview and keep making me listen to her all the time. i asked her to take day off from the job for couple days to prepare for the interview and she said she doesn't need anything to prepare. and she wont take day off even day before interview. i guess she is not happy with my adjustment of status interview has been scheduled. she gets angry with small things and keep making me shut up and making me mentally harassed. i love her and she is saying she love me too but i dont see that anymore in action.


should i withdrawn my adjustment of status file or still go for the interview? as far as i know she is not interested to come to interview with me at all.

give me good advise guys please

thanks.

[Totellthetruth]

Hello guys,

i am F-1 student here in USA. i met my wife 3 years ago and we got married last year in May 2018.
i am taking only one class per semester due to financial problems. so i am no longer F-1 student.

we were happy all the time but since January my wife has been fighting with me over nothing and always bringing Adjustment of status thing in all the argument and keep threatening me that she wont appear with me to the interview and keep making me listen to her all the time. i asked her to take day off from the job for couple days to prepare for the interview and she said she doesn't need anything to prepare. and she wont take day off even day before interview. i guess she is not happy with my adjustment of status interview has been scheduled. she gets angry with small things and keep making me shut up and making me mentally harassed. i love her and she is saying she love me too but i dont see that anymore in action.


should i withdrawn my adjustment of status file or still go for the interview? as far as i know she is not interested to come to interview with me at all.

give me good advise guys please

thanks.

Hi

I could tell you what to do with her but that wouldnt be very polite so I ll pass

My best advice would be to find an immigration lawyer A,S.A,P

because only they can help you

Good Luck

[Poramin]

When is your adjustment interview?

Does she want to file for divorce?

Does she understand what will happen to you?

[AngelaPhelan]

Hello guys,

i am F-1 student here in USA. i met my wife 3 years ago and we got married last year in May 2018.
i am taking only one class per semester due to financial problems. so i am no longer F-1 student.

we were happy all the time but since January my wife has been fighting with me over nothing and always bringing Adjustment of status thing in all the argument and keep threatening me that she wont appear with me to the interview and keep making me listen to her all the time. i asked her to take day off from the job for couple days to prepare for the interview and she said she doesn't need anything to prepare. and she wont take day off even day before interview. i guess she is not happy with my adjustment of status interview has been scheduled. she gets angry with small things and keep making me shut up and making me mentally harassed. i love her and she is saying she love me too but i dont see that anymore in action.


should i withdrawn my adjustment of status file or still go for the interview? as far as i know she is not interested to come to interview with me at all.

give me good advise guys please

thanks.

[relationship advice] Sounds like she might think you're using her for citizenship? Communication is key in every relationship, you should have a talk with her and tell her how much these (adjustment of status AND your relationship) mean to you and let her know that you CARE and that you want to build your future together here in America. Tell her you love HER and this adjustment of status thing wouldn't mean anything if it wasn't for her. Remind her of your happy times together, remind her how you guys felt for each other when you first met. I'm not sure if you're working or not, but It will help tremendously if you're also contributing to your household financially. Money can jeopardize any relationship for sure, I know I have seen so many of them.
you guys have the interview coming up already, the hard part of this journey is almost over, it would be such a pity if you give up now. I know staying in a controlling relationship isn't healthy, but I hope y'all could try and work it out.

[Aug2018_AOS]

[relationship advice] Sounds like she might think you're using her for citizenship? Communication is key in every relationship, you should have a talk with her and tell her how much these (adjustment of status AND your relationship) mean to you and let her know that you CARE and that you want to build your future together here in America. Tell her you love HER and this adjustment of status thing wouldn't mean anything if it wasn't for her. Remind her of your happy times together, remind her how you guys felt for each other when you first met. I'm not sure if you're working or not, but It will help tremendously if you're also contributing to your household financially. Money can jeopardize any relationship for sure, I know I have seen so many of them.
you guys have the interview coming up already, the hard part of this journey is almost over, it would be such a pity if you give up now. I know staying in a controlling relationship isn't healthy, but I hope y'all could try and work it out.

Yes I am working now and helping her financially equally maybe more than that but she keeps ignoring me and I came to know otherday that she has been talking to her ex on social media. I guess thats why she is ignoring me all the time.


well my interview date is 04/24
I am not sure yet if she want to file for an divorce or not
She knows that I will have to leave country and maybe she doesn't care for it anymore.

[Poramin]

Your interview is two weeks from today??

13 days isn't much time to salvage your marriage.

Have you made it clear to her that if she doesn't go to the interview, it's over; you're gone. At that point a divorce is just a formality before your departure.

Is that really what she wants?

[Gemini21]

Im sorry to hear that. Try to communicate with her. The pressure of this process is a lot, and not everyone handles it the same. If you love her, and if she might still love you, things might work out, or at least for a little more time, give it a try. Wish you the best.

[celosia89]

Im sorry to hear that. Try to communicate with her. The pressure of this process is a lot, and not everyone handles it the same. If you love her, and if she might still love you, things might work out, or at least for a little more time, give it a try. Wish you the best.

after your done with biometric, any update on I485 or I765 or it still said case is received for both?

[Gemini21]

after your done with biometric, any update on I485 or I765 or it still said case is received for both?

No more updates anywhere

[yvc]

Yes I am working now and helping her financially equally maybe more than that but she keeps ignoring me and I came to know otherday that she has been talking to her ex on social media. I guess thats why she is ignoring me all the time.


well my interview date is 04/24
I am not sure yet if she want to file for an divorce or not
She knows that I will have to leave country and maybe she doesn't care for it anymore.

What you need to know is whether you still love her and what is the most important to you. If loving her and spending the rest of your life with her is the most important, then try whatever means to work out the marriage. If staying in the marriage is no longer making you happy, then you should consider the next step. If staying in this country is the most important, then keep the marriage and try to work it out in the meantime, you have waited for so long and you are so closed to be done with this process. I am sure you truly loved her and that was why you married her in the first place. I wouldn't feel guilty if I were you. Things do change and people change. She's talking to her ex doesn't mean she doesn't love you anymore. Sometimes women just want to talk to people to release their stress and fear. Her ex might be the person who understands her most (besides you). Therefore, talking to the ex helps her relax a little. Unless you have hard evidence that she clearly doesn't love you, I wouldn't overthink about this. I would want to win her over if this is the case.

Something just came into my mind: potentially she has fears that you might leave her once you get the green card application approved and that you entered the marriage because of her citizenship (not saying you are doing that but she might be thinking about this). What you can do is to give her more security and comfort. Make her believe that you are genuine and you love her because of who she is, the way she talks and thinks, not because of any complimentary benefits that she can bring. If you become impatient, impulsive or even abusive, it would only confirm her fears are true.

Hope that's helpful. Best of luck.

[scubby3]

I heard that you can file on your own with a good lawyer and if you can proove that she's abusing you mentally then you should go to the interview with your lawyer and and explain yoir situation. Let them know you love her and you want the relationship to work. If its possible signuo for a marriage councillor and ask her to go with you make sure you have some form of record to show you've asked her and if she dies not went with you go by your self and ask the councillor to give you proof that you went and have that as evidence that you want your relationship to work