Hello!
My spouse received his GC interview appointment notice and what should be exciting is giving me a mental breakdown.
When we applied over a year ago, I had a full-time job, our joint bank account had a steady income, I had him on my dental insurance and things seemed fine. It seemed like there would be enough evidence for the interview. We have been married for 2.5 years.
But October last year I was laid off and while looking for full-time work for 7 months, I have been freelancing. My freelance income is also significantly less than what I was making full-time, but I know that by July I will have made above the poverty level for a 2 person household. This is just the hardest time in my life right now, but it's slowly getting better.
Due to not having any more direct deposit, I was putting all of my freelance income into my individual bank account rather than our shared. The balance on the joint account went negative and the bank closed our account. We just had to reopen a new one and very little money goes into it as all of our bill pay is attached to my individual bank account.
I am 25, turning 26 the day after our interview, so I have had insurance under my parents, which financially always helped me, my spouse has been exempt as he was in-between status. I am planning to get my own insurance starting in June and adding him to that, but then it would show not even a month of joint insurance.
We have separate phone plans (I'm still on my parent's), all of the utility bills that come to the house only have his name on them, yet I pay them. His name is only on the apartment lease because he is stubborn and has always refused to add my name and I don't know why. So on paper, it looks like we only share a bank account, but in reality, I pay for most of the rent and bills.
I thought we wouldn't get our interview until the end of summer at the earliest, and I have gone to interviews for full-time jobs, but it's been dry in my field for a while. I am hoping to hear back this week for one which would give me some peace of mind, but over 600 people applied for this job so I'm not sure.
Additionally, none of my family knows that we're married. I never told them because I've always felt like they would disown me. They think I'm irresponsible and to find out I married someone only after a short engagement ... I'm sure our relationship would become severely strained. They still think I'm a child really, so I can't ask any of them to be co-sponsors. They know that we've been "dating" and have been living together for two and a half years and they've met him a few times but that's it. My spouse's family knows that we're married and I had traveled home with him to meet them before. Sadly I don't have any pictures of us with his mom. We're not the type of couple to photograph every single thing we do, but we do have coupley photos from either traveling in the US or with our friends.
How F**ked are we truly? I've been stress crying for two days as it's the weekend and waiting for our lawyer's response. We could have a great interview, but I know they'll be running checks on our financial situation behind the scenes.
This could really ruin our lives if it's denied. He's been building his base here in the states and doesn't have much of one back in his country. And I'm prone to mental illness so the stress could really mess me up and affect my life.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I'm really scared and curious to know if anyone has had any cases remotely similar to ours.
Thank you for any help you can give.
My spouse received his GC interview appointment notice and what should be exciting is giving me a mental breakdown.
When we applied over a year ago, I had a full-time job, our joint bank account had a steady income, I had him on my dental insurance and things seemed fine. It seemed like there would be enough evidence for the interview. We have been married for 2.5 years.
But October last year I was laid off and while looking for full-time work for 7 months, I have been freelancing. My freelance income is also significantly less than what I was making full-time, but I know that by July I will have made above the poverty level for a 2 person household. This is just the hardest time in my life right now, but it's slowly getting better.
Due to not having any more direct deposit, I was putting all of my freelance income into my individual bank account rather than our shared. The balance on the joint account went negative and the bank closed our account. We just had to reopen a new one and very little money goes into it as all of our bill pay is attached to my individual bank account.
I am 25, turning 26 the day after our interview, so I have had insurance under my parents, which financially always helped me, my spouse has been exempt as he was in-between status. I am planning to get my own insurance starting in June and adding him to that, but then it would show not even a month of joint insurance.
We have separate phone plans (I'm still on my parent's), all of the utility bills that come to the house only have his name on them, yet I pay them. His name is only on the apartment lease because he is stubborn and has always refused to add my name and I don't know why. So on paper, it looks like we only share a bank account, but in reality, I pay for most of the rent and bills.
I thought we wouldn't get our interview until the end of summer at the earliest, and I have gone to interviews for full-time jobs, but it's been dry in my field for a while. I am hoping to hear back this week for one which would give me some peace of mind, but over 600 people applied for this job so I'm not sure.
Additionally, none of my family knows that we're married. I never told them because I've always felt like they would disown me. They think I'm irresponsible and to find out I married someone only after a short engagement ... I'm sure our relationship would become severely strained. They still think I'm a child really, so I can't ask any of them to be co-sponsors. They know that we've been "dating" and have been living together for two and a half years and they've met him a few times but that's it. My spouse's family knows that we're married and I had traveled home with him to meet them before. Sadly I don't have any pictures of us with his mom. We're not the type of couple to photograph every single thing we do, but we do have coupley photos from either traveling in the US or with our friends.
How F**ked are we truly? I've been stress crying for two days as it's the weekend and waiting for our lawyer's response. We could have a great interview, but I know they'll be running checks on our financial situation behind the scenes.
This could really ruin our lives if it's denied. He's been building his base here in the states and doesn't have much of one back in his country. And I'm prone to mental illness so the stress could really mess me up and affect my life.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I'm really scared and curious to know if anyone has had any cases remotely similar to ours.
Thank you for any help you can give.
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