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Hello...I will try to keep my post as short as possible, but I really need some proper and sound advice. I married and came to USA, and am educated with a decent job. Currently on EAD under my husband's status (EB3).
From 2004 I was a victim of intense domestic violence by my husband. I had to cover my injuries and bruises at work and with friends, with made-up stories. But in 2008, with help from a friend who witnessed his outrage, I finally called the cops and husband was arrested. He stayed in jail for a day, and promised to improve and work things out. Believing him, I withdrew all charges against him, and he got his case expunged. However, although the physical abuse stopped, since 2008 I have been a victim of verbal and emotional abuse, and it is very difficult to prove it. So much so, that he calls me mad.
The current situation is that we now have a 2 month old newborn (yes it sounds crazy but I wanted to be a mom before time ran out). I love my child so much and want to protect him. Seeing my child's face, I do not want to stay in this marriage at all.
Me and my husband have a bad marriage, and he still yells and screams at me, even in front of the baby. He feels that now he has trapped me. I m scared to call cops for fear that they will put my baby in foster care.
I m willing to take counselling to help me sort out any low self-esteem issues. My husband, although he calls me mad, has asked me not to take counseling since he knows I will bring up the past.
I know I have been weak all these years, even though I m educated and all. For some reason (due to social pressure in India, etc.), I could not gather enough courage to leave this failed marriage. But now, after being mom, I m ready to face hardship for the sake of my child, be it in India or here.
My question is 1) How will child custody be affected? I m in the state of FL, and will they count a case of domestic violence in 2008 to determine child custody?
2) I do not have green card yet, so I know I will have to return to India. In that case, how will it affect my US born baby? If court gives visitation rights, how can it be managed if I return to India?
3) I have saved some money to fight court case if need be, although my husband earns more than 4 times than I do, but how much does average divorce costs?
I will be thankful for any help. I know some of you may think bad of me for staying for so long, but now I m willing to fight for my baby.
Hello...I will try to keep my post as short as possible, but I really need some proper and sound advice. I married and came to USA, and am educated with a decent job. Currently on EAD under my husband's status (EB3).
From 2004 I was a victim of intense domestic violence by my husband. I had to cover my injuries and bruises at work and with friends, with made-up stories. But in 2008, with help from a friend who witnessed his outrage, I finally called the cops and husband was arrested. He stayed in jail for a day, and promised to improve and work things out. Believing him, I withdrew all charges against him, and he got his case expunged. However, although the physical abuse stopped, since 2008 I have been a victim of verbal and emotional abuse, and it is very difficult to prove it. So much so, that he calls me mad.
The current situation is that we now have a 2 month old newborn (yes it sounds crazy but I wanted to be a mom before time ran out). I love my child so much and want to protect him. Seeing my child's face, I do not want to stay in this marriage at all.
Me and my husband have a bad marriage, and he still yells and screams at me, even in front of the baby. He feels that now he has trapped me. I m scared to call cops for fear that they will put my baby in foster care.
I m willing to take counselling to help me sort out any low self-esteem issues. My husband, although he calls me mad, has asked me not to take counseling since he knows I will bring up the past.
I know I have been weak all these years, even though I m educated and all. For some reason (due to social pressure in India, etc.), I could not gather enough courage to leave this failed marriage. But now, after being mom, I m ready to face hardship for the sake of my child, be it in India or here.
My question is 1) How will child custody be affected? I m in the state of FL, and will they count a case of domestic violence in 2008 to determine child custody?
2) I do not have green card yet, so I know I will have to return to India. In that case, how will it affect my US born baby? If court gives visitation rights, how can it be managed if I return to India?
3) I have saved some money to fight court case if need be, although my husband earns more than 4 times than I do, but how much does average divorce costs?
I will be thankful for any help. I know some of you may think bad of me for staying for so long, but now I m willing to fight for my baby.
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