Need advice from an Arab to see if I should stop spouse visa

[AmericanSweetie]

I have dated a few Arabs in the US and thought I knew a lot about the culture but maybe not enough. I met a Jordanian online who is an engineer in Dubai. He was only looking for a serious relationship as was I. But he's 24 years younger than me. Granted I don't look my age but still. Said he wanted an older wife, did not want children. After 2 months I was on a plane (he paid for my trip because he insisted) He messaged me constantly and we talked on cam almost daily before I went there. We went to Jordan and were married (signed a contract). I came home and immediately he has less time to talk. First day back he unfriended me on ******** and told me not to tag him until he said it's ok. He knew I would be posting pics of us and his family is all on ********. I met his Mother, sisters, brother, stepfather but no aunts or uncles in Dubai. I met a cousin and the cousin's family in Jordan, we stayed at their house. By the way we did NOT consummate the marriage either. I asked about the FB thing, he said he did not want people giving him a hard time about leaving Dubai for months so he was not going to tell the rest of his family that we were married. I was upset but what could I do. When I started telling MY family and friends they were upset and I had to listen to a lot of negative comments so I sort of let the whole not telling his whole family slide. But, his sisters who were sooooo nice to me while I was there will not even accept a friend request from me on FB. Or even return a message. And they all changed their phone numbers so no longer can contact them in ********. He talks to me less and less no matter how much I complain and we fight about it. Now its getting to the point of 3 or 4 days without even a hello. This last time was 8 days. And he's starting to talk about delaying coming here. First it was needs to stay until his youngest sister's tuition is paid in full for university, now it's he doesn't feel safe in the US. I have been told recently by an Indian female who has lived in Dubai her whole life that this is clearly a fraud marriage to her. She said Arabs in that part of the world do not marry older women, not outsiders, and would not consummate the marriage because I would be seen as "dirty" because I had been with other men. I think maybe he is afraid he cannot pass the interview process and will be charged with fraud. He has been denied a visitor visa to the US 2 other times. I have fought with him repeatedly and made it as clear as glass that I do not want to be used for a green card and while he insists that he does not even want to come here, that he only wanted to live with me I need to make a decision fast and stop this process if this is fraud and he certainly is not going to admit it but if this is his idea of love it's not what I signed up for. Please give me advice.

[PryncissQueen]

I am not Arab, but... This sounds too much like fraud. I would see what can be done to annul the contract. How long has this been going on? He unfriended you because he doesn't want his real family to know what is going on. The people you met may not even be family because if they are they would not have allowed this to go on... Keep beating yourself up if you want to, or find out how to cancel that contract and move on with your life.

[daggit]

Not an Arab either.. but my advice, run as far away from this excuse of a man. He is using you as a ticket to the US. Better he is showing his true colors sooner rather than later.

Have you filed a spousal petition for him?