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I live in the US for 10 mounths and my conditional green-card based on marriage is going to expire in less than a year. My husband moraly abuses me, shouting, using rude words for no reason. Whenever he doesn't like a single thing about me, he always says to pack my begs and pretends to buy me ticket to my native country.
He uses this to threaten me. Doing this he forced me to study for degree that I don't like in the full time basis. He doesn't allaw me to work and gives me money that is enough only for the bass ticket. Still, he never fisicaly abuzed me.
I would have lived with this, but now I 've an emergency, my parent is seek and need an urgent medications and i am the only person who can provide help by sending at least little finansial help abroad. But i can't work-i study everyday and threatened by my husband, and i can't drop classes because he paied for it himself. I am in the total dependance on him. I also don't have the common bank account, he refuses to make photos with me in US, all mail comes on his name and i am in no way able to collect the evidence for future intentions.
It is a really hard time for me now. I feel he doesn't love me, sometimes i am afraid of him and doubt about having common children. I am a good wife, i get up at 5:30 a.m every day to cook breakfast for him and i go to school right away, when i come from school at 10 p.m. he is sitting home hungry waiting for me to prepare supper, which takes me at least one hour, because he likes delicious fresh-prepared food every day with salads and all those things.
I am not sure about further living with him and not sure about what i really can do.
If to divorse and file the form to remove condition statuse alone, i won't be aligible to stay in us after, because he never abused me fisically and i can't provide common forms-fotos, mails, bank accouts,etc.
If to stay with him until mu citizenship, i am not sure i can handle this, because my health can't handle all those nerves and his attitude during our hard periods. And i will not be able to work-which is no help to my relative, and i will have so much money to give him back that he spent on me and my education during this and fallowing years. And i afraid what he could do to me after the divorce.
And, still i don't want to lose his time also living with him with intention to divorse after getting the citizenship. He wants a baby and he already almost 40, we have 12 years difference. This way i would be obsticle for him to have a baby, to merry someone else and don't give a baby for him and leave him after gaining the citizenship...., i can't do this to him in the moral thoughs.
What can I do within this year that i still have before my conditionally gc is expired, or what can i do after in both cases-if we divorse or not divorse.
Please, if you know-any advice would be so helpfull, at least morally. I need to do smth right now.
Thank you for assistance and time and sorry for so long letter.
I live in the US for 10 mounths and my conditional green-card based on marriage is going to expire in less than a year. My husband moraly abuses me, shouting, using rude words for no reason. Whenever he doesn't like a single thing about me, he always says to pack my begs and pretends to buy me ticket to my native country.
He uses this to threaten me. Doing this he forced me to study for degree that I don't like in the full time basis. He doesn't allaw me to work and gives me money that is enough only for the bass ticket. Still, he never fisicaly abuzed me.
I would have lived with this, but now I 've an emergency, my parent is seek and need an urgent medications and i am the only person who can provide help by sending at least little finansial help abroad. But i can't work-i study everyday and threatened by my husband, and i can't drop classes because he paied for it himself. I am in the total dependance on him. I also don't have the common bank account, he refuses to make photos with me in US, all mail comes on his name and i am in no way able to collect the evidence for future intentions.
It is a really hard time for me now. I feel he doesn't love me, sometimes i am afraid of him and doubt about having common children. I am a good wife, i get up at 5:30 a.m every day to cook breakfast for him and i go to school right away, when i come from school at 10 p.m. he is sitting home hungry waiting for me to prepare supper, which takes me at least one hour, because he likes delicious fresh-prepared food every day with salads and all those things.
I am not sure about further living with him and not sure about what i really can do.
If to divorse and file the form to remove condition statuse alone, i won't be aligible to stay in us after, because he never abused me fisically and i can't provide common forms-fotos, mails, bank accouts,etc.
If to stay with him until mu citizenship, i am not sure i can handle this, because my health can't handle all those nerves and his attitude during our hard periods. And i will not be able to work-which is no help to my relative, and i will have so much money to give him back that he spent on me and my education during this and fallowing years. And i afraid what he could do to me after the divorce.
And, still i don't want to lose his time also living with him with intention to divorse after getting the citizenship. He wants a baby and he already almost 40, we have 12 years difference. This way i would be obsticle for him to have a baby, to merry someone else and don't give a baby for him and leave him after gaining the citizenship...., i can't do this to him in the moral thoughs.
What can I do within this year that i still have before my conditionally gc is expired, or what can i do after in both cases-if we divorse or not divorse.
Please, if you know-any advice would be so helpfull, at least morally. I need to do smth right now.
Thank you for assistance and time and sorry for so long letter.
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