Misserable marriage

[robin2000]

I married for love, give everything I have into this marriage. Dream of work and combine with husband for happy life. but my husband turn out to be financially broken, owe state for backdated child support, unstable job, worse is he is rude, demanding and aggressive. I am going crazy, depress, and miserable.
I dont know what to do. I cannot go on my own, because no job, finishing my savings covering my home expenses and for my basic expenses. Marriage is not what I thought it would be. I have wasted time and money in a selfish marriage. I wish I could renew my life, go to college and work as single person away from my useless husband. But I have not received greencard. Can I ask for divorce, learn and work with my ssc and ead. I am looking for new positive life for myself without the emotionally abusive husband. I hope to marry again that have a lasting marriage.

[mariejm]

Robin2000,

I am sorry for your situation, but posting multiple requests for the forum members to tell u what to do about your marriage is not going to make your situation better. Other members have responded to you posts in a kind thoughtful manner, but no response seem to be good enough for you.

You should consider getting emotional counseling as your posts reek with pain and desperation. Talk with someone who can help you and I wish you all the best. Being bitter will only exacerbate your emotional well being so quit whining and take a stand to improve your situation. Its life, girlfriend, we all have bad days, how we handle them show our character.

Marie

[robin2000]

I know what you mean. I am going crazy. Words written and speak and heard do not change anything. I search for support someone to tell me EXACTLY what to do. I have secretly packed my stuff few times but later unpack because i dont have any plans to turn around. Then bad days again, cried again, when I on computer searching for clue what to do, when he pass, I got so nervous only God knows. Quickly end my use. Now he is out.
Like the song of Mariah Carey the hero lies in me. Nobody can think for me. You made me realise that. I have to plan and act for what I feel good for my self. And act fast before i get coward and weak.
thanks.

[vera9992003]

Hey, Robbin! I very sorry what happened to you!
Looks like you are in abusive marriage. Yes, your hubby is a jerk.There are Self-Petition I-360 for Special Immigrant ( do not remember exactly the name), which may be send by Battered Spouse ( in your case by you ). If you could prove your marriage is not just for immigration, and that you are indeed in abusive marriage, you will get your GC without your husband.

Good Luck!

[thegooddoer]

Dear Robin,

If your cruel husband has been abusive to you (either mentally or physically. Yes, emotional abuse is domestic violence) and you can prove it, please try to get a civil protetcion order against him. Some states give CPO up to 5 yrs. You can get the help of legal aid since you do not have any income. Or can get the help of a Govt. prosecutor. This CPO will help you get divorce from him easily with spousal support. Once you get it, you can keep your jerk husband away from you and he will not be a threat to you.

Talk to your community members, like if you going to any religious gathering or so. You should start your life anew. There is no point in brooding over the past. BYGONES ARE BYGONES. You are not alone. Lot of people go thru' similar pain. But that is not the end of life. Life keeps going... SO, BE POSITIVE. BE DETERMINED. THEN EVERYTHING WILL TURN OUT THE WAY YOU WANT. If interested, go to pravsworld.com where you see some good food for soul.

ALL THE BEST AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU ROBIN.