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Getting Divorce on Conditional GC
Hello!
I’m hoping I can get some insights here about my situation.
My wife and I have been together since Dec/2018, we got married in Feb/20 and I got my conditional GC on Mar/21 and now she's talking about getting a divorce.
Everything seemed to be fine until we moved in together back Jan/20, then I started realized that her mood would flip for no reason. Initially I thought it was related to COVID, since we suddenly got stuck home 24/7, but then I realized that were some issues going on. She never told me about her mental issues, that she was under depression and anxiety medication until early this. She managed to hide all medications she was taking from me and also hide her visits to the psychiatrist.
Things started getting a bit worse when I started talking about having kids. I mentioned a couple of times that I would like to have kids when we were dating and engaged, but she never explicitly said she does not want to have kids until a couple of months ago. She said for her it's overwhelming to take care of herself and she will not be able to handle taking care of kids, and she also said it's been exhausting even to have me in the house every day.
I feel bad, because I did not engage in a relationship and have invested a lot... emotional-wise and timewise... for this. I'm against divorce and believe that we should work this out... even though she kept me in the dark about her health situation, I forgive her... she said she was embarrassed and did not want me to think she was kind of crazy.
Anyways, she said this is not working for her and said we should separate... I suggested about us getting a couple counseling sessions, but she refused. She does not want to harm me, though, with my immigration process. She recommended us to separate until I get my definitive GC, and then get a divorce. I tried everything I can to make it work, but she's not willing to, so I don't know what else to do.
She realizes that I've given up a lot of things for this relationship, even a good job in The Netherlands because she was not willing to move to Europe. She also does not want to harm me with my GC process since we both tried to make it work, but it's not working.
February will be our 2nd year marriage anniversary, and I'm not sure how I should proceed with this. She said she'll do everything she can for me to get my definitive GC, but not sure if I should keep with my marriage or get a divorce now and apply to remove conditional on my GC by myself.
Does any have any thoughts on this? I would like to know how difficult it would be to prove bona fide and what would be the likelihood of getting it denied.
We've been filling taxes together, I have her under my insurance through my company... life insurance, 401-K, etc... I have statements of all her visits to doctors... I'm pretty sure she would do a statement saying that we engaged in a bona fide marriage, but it did not workout.
Thank you.
I’m hoping I can get some insights here about my situation.
My wife and I have been together since Dec/2018, we got married in Feb/20 and I got my conditional GC on Mar/21 and now she's talking about getting a divorce.
Everything seemed to be fine until we moved in together back Jan/20, then I started realized that her mood would flip for no reason. Initially I thought it was related to COVID, since we suddenly got stuck home 24/7, but then I realized that were some issues going on. She never told me about her mental issues, that she was under depression and anxiety medication until early this. She managed to hide all medications she was taking from me and also hide her visits to the psychiatrist.
Things started getting a bit worse when I started talking about having kids. I mentioned a couple of times that I would like to have kids when we were dating and engaged, but she never explicitly said she does not want to have kids until a couple of months ago. She said for her it's overwhelming to take care of herself and she will not be able to handle taking care of kids, and she also said it's been exhausting even to have me in the house every day.
I feel bad, because I did not engage in a relationship and have invested a lot... emotional-wise and timewise... for this. I'm against divorce and believe that we should work this out... even though she kept me in the dark about her health situation, I forgive her... she said she was embarrassed and did not want me to think she was kind of crazy.
Anyways, she said this is not working for her and said we should separate... I suggested about us getting a couple counseling sessions, but she refused. She does not want to harm me, though, with my immigration process. She recommended us to separate until I get my definitive GC, and then get a divorce. I tried everything I can to make it work, but she's not willing to, so I don't know what else to do.
She realizes that I've given up a lot of things for this relationship, even a good job in The Netherlands because she was not willing to move to Europe. She also does not want to harm me with my GC process since we both tried to make it work, but it's not working.
February will be our 2nd year marriage anniversary, and I'm not sure how I should proceed with this. She said she'll do everything she can for me to get my definitive GC, but not sure if I should keep with my marriage or get a divorce now and apply to remove conditional on my GC by myself.
Does any have any thoughts on this? I would like to know how difficult it would be to prove bona fide and what would be the likelihood of getting it denied.
We've been filling taxes together, I have her under my insurance through my company... life insurance, 401-K, etc... I have statements of all her visits to doctors... I'm pretty sure she would do a statement saying that we engaged in a bona fide marriage, but it did not workout.
Thank you.
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