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How does a divorce or annulment impact my GC sponsorship? My husband is supposed to do this in teh next few weeks We have been married for 13 months and never stayed together till a few weeks ago.
Will I still get my GC if I initiate a legal separation in the meantime?
Should I wait till I get my GC? I do not think I can wait that long.
- He threatens me constantly with hitting me if I diagree with him on a nything, or that "he'll kick my **** out of here" if I dont do what he asks me to.
- expects me to perform certain sexual acts that I am not comfortable with despite my saying it is demeaning to me.
- Denies me any kind of emotional or physical intimacy - treats me like an untouchable.
- Has now been forcing me to move out of our bedroom since past few days.
- Calls me bitch and such words. The F and B words are apart of his vocabulary every second sentence.
- today he even said I should get myself another apt and that he will pay the rent
- Says he cant stand me since I am over weight and not taking care of myself and constantly calls me a "slum woman" if I cry or get upset at his behavior.
- flirts with other women in my presence, constantly saying that is a New yorker's sophisticated way of life and that I am too crass and uncultured to take in my stride. ... (and I studied Masters at the #1 Ivy league in Boston, been living in the US for 4 years now)
- Off late I am just having to tiptoe around the house afraid I'll annoy him.
- very tight fisted with money. , uses the social - economic imbalance in our relationship as a way to control me completely. He knows I wont turn to my natal family for help.
- He constantly talks aout how he could marry a a 20 or 18 year old if he wanted to and frequently says I can walk out the door if I am unhappy with him... Add to this off late he says I am a "turn off".
- His ex girlfriend, 10 yrs ago who also worked at his company in a senior position had filed a case of domestic abuse with the NYPD, but he had that squished with the best attorneys in town. There is perhaps no record of that too. (he never disclosed it to me, I discovered a copy of that file when I was helping him take backups on his computer, I am an engineer)
- has been with many many other women before that I di dnot know about. I dont know if he has cheated on me since our marriage, he was away fo one whole year taking care of an ill parent... so I'd like to believe he was too busy doing somebody some good to do that.
Does any of teh above count for domestic abuse? How can I prove it? I married him in good faith , in fact I am estranged from my family for marrying him. They did not even come to my wedding at the clerk's office... . ...I am on my own whether I choose to live with him or not...
I am living the horror of this marriage everyday and its getting worse day by day.
Also I am considering an annulment a possibility as he lied to me about his age (by 15 years) he is actually 18 years my senior. The matrimonial info I got from a website sai he was 37 when he first contacted me,. By the time we got close to marraige and I confronted him about how old he looks, he claimed he is 44. But his passport says 51 years old.... I am 32 right now.
I waited all my life to meet the right man and I am just devastated by whats happening ... I cannot return to my family, my parenst and siblings wont have me back. The best option for me is to stay in the US and rebuild my life where a divorce is still a part of society... .. I dont know what else to do if I am forced to leave the US.
And that makes my GC important now though I did not marry him for that.
I was on F1 and married him. I am now on OPT and he is supposed to be filing for AOS this week. Even this he has been putting off for many months now. Makes me cry and plead everytime we talk about it.... I dont know what his intentions are. I am in a precarious position right now. Please advise
How can I prove my marriage as having been in good faith and still retain my GC if I am pushed to separate? Will an annulment still allow me to keep this GC?
Should I wait two years to ensure I have it then divorce him? I am afraid for my personal safety for the next few months itself ..as he is violent and downright vicious... . If somethign happens to me there wont be anybody to vouch for it. .. His brother's families who all live here will take his side..
If I can get out of this marraige it will be my second chance at life.
I dont have a job yet, I am looking 24/7 for one. Since i am cut off from my family , I am not getting their help with references for a job search here. he is also holding that powerfully over my head and taking very long to give me even one rerefence, though he is very well connected in this country. I am on my own literally and have to beg him for everything. I cannot believe I struggled all my life to get a good education and then reduced myself to this. ..
Thanks for your time.
Looking for advice on the timing for getting out of thsi marriage and retain my ability to live in the US. I dont have a dime or a person to fall back on.
--- A distraught, stupid (for having married him) and cornered woman.
p.s. he is a multimillionaire and will get the nastiest lawyers in town. I dont yet afford a lawyer. I cant move my hands till I gain financial independance. ...
Will I still get my GC if I initiate a legal separation in the meantime?
Should I wait till I get my GC? I do not think I can wait that long.
- He threatens me constantly with hitting me if I diagree with him on a nything, or that "he'll kick my **** out of here" if I dont do what he asks me to.
- expects me to perform certain sexual acts that I am not comfortable with despite my saying it is demeaning to me.
- Denies me any kind of emotional or physical intimacy - treats me like an untouchable.
- Has now been forcing me to move out of our bedroom since past few days.
- Calls me bitch and such words. The F and B words are apart of his vocabulary every second sentence.
- today he even said I should get myself another apt and that he will pay the rent
- Says he cant stand me since I am over weight and not taking care of myself and constantly calls me a "slum woman" if I cry or get upset at his behavior.
- flirts with other women in my presence, constantly saying that is a New yorker's sophisticated way of life and that I am too crass and uncultured to take in my stride. ... (and I studied Masters at the #1 Ivy league in Boston, been living in the US for 4 years now)
- Off late I am just having to tiptoe around the house afraid I'll annoy him.
- very tight fisted with money. , uses the social - economic imbalance in our relationship as a way to control me completely. He knows I wont turn to my natal family for help.
- He constantly talks aout how he could marry a a 20 or 18 year old if he wanted to and frequently says I can walk out the door if I am unhappy with him... Add to this off late he says I am a "turn off".
- His ex girlfriend, 10 yrs ago who also worked at his company in a senior position had filed a case of domestic abuse with the NYPD, but he had that squished with the best attorneys in town. There is perhaps no record of that too. (he never disclosed it to me, I discovered a copy of that file when I was helping him take backups on his computer, I am an engineer)
- has been with many many other women before that I di dnot know about. I dont know if he has cheated on me since our marriage, he was away fo one whole year taking care of an ill parent... so I'd like to believe he was too busy doing somebody some good to do that.
Does any of teh above count for domestic abuse? How can I prove it? I married him in good faith , in fact I am estranged from my family for marrying him. They did not even come to my wedding at the clerk's office... . ...I am on my own whether I choose to live with him or not...
I am living the horror of this marriage everyday and its getting worse day by day.
Also I am considering an annulment a possibility as he lied to me about his age (by 15 years) he is actually 18 years my senior. The matrimonial info I got from a website sai he was 37 when he first contacted me,. By the time we got close to marraige and I confronted him about how old he looks, he claimed he is 44. But his passport says 51 years old.... I am 32 right now.
I waited all my life to meet the right man and I am just devastated by whats happening ... I cannot return to my family, my parenst and siblings wont have me back. The best option for me is to stay in the US and rebuild my life where a divorce is still a part of society... .. I dont know what else to do if I am forced to leave the US.
And that makes my GC important now though I did not marry him for that.
I was on F1 and married him. I am now on OPT and he is supposed to be filing for AOS this week. Even this he has been putting off for many months now. Makes me cry and plead everytime we talk about it.... I dont know what his intentions are. I am in a precarious position right now. Please advise
How can I prove my marriage as having been in good faith and still retain my GC if I am pushed to separate? Will an annulment still allow me to keep this GC?
Should I wait two years to ensure I have it then divorce him? I am afraid for my personal safety for the next few months itself ..as he is violent and downright vicious... . If somethign happens to me there wont be anybody to vouch for it. .. His brother's families who all live here will take his side..
If I can get out of this marraige it will be my second chance at life.
I dont have a job yet, I am looking 24/7 for one. Since i am cut off from my family , I am not getting their help with references for a job search here. he is also holding that powerfully over my head and taking very long to give me even one rerefence, though he is very well connected in this country. I am on my own literally and have to beg him for everything. I cannot believe I struggled all my life to get a good education and then reduced myself to this. ..
Thanks for your time.
Looking for advice on the timing for getting out of thsi marriage and retain my ability to live in the US. I dont have a dime or a person to fall back on.
--- A distraught, stupid (for having married him) and cornered woman.
p.s. he is a multimillionaire and will get the nastiest lawyers in town. I dont yet afford a lawyer. I cant move my hands till I gain financial independance. ...
