How does a US citizen get his deported wife back?

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I'm a citizen of Azerbaijan, came to the US in September 1999 on a tourist visa which i was able to get because of my employment with the United Nations High Commissioner for Regugees at the time. I stayed. I had my son in 2006, and got married in 2008. My husband and son live in Las Vegas. My husband is not my son's biological father, but he loves the boy and raised him as his own. We filed I-130 in April of 2010. Someone in Chicago signed for the FedEx. Then our paperwork was lost. In August 2010 when my husband called to inquire, he was told we were not in the system. In September 2010 i was picked up on alleged jaywalking (sheer bad luck!) and after spending 4 months in jail was deported back to Azerbaijan in January 2011. My husband got an attorney but instead of Stay of Deportation she filed Motion to Reopen Case siting mental illness which i don't have, and failing to submit sufficient supporting documents. She told my husband he had nothing to worry about. Yet i ended up getting deported with nothing but the clothing on my back. Last summer i wrote to the Director of ICE, John Morton. His executive secretary replied and sent me I-601. I took it to the US embassy here in Baku, Azerbaijan. Unfortunately, they only do tourist visas, and i couldn't get one. In my letter i included my husband's contact info. Later on he also got some mail from them. It was letters which we never received, although we properly filed change of address form whenever we moved. They claim to have sent us a letter saying we had an interview scheduled to get my greencard -- in November 2010, when i was ALREADY in jail and in removal proceedings (?!?). And since we failed to appear and never followed up, our claim was denied due to abandonment. This is my story, and I really need your advice. What should my husband do to bring me back to the US as soon as possible? My son will be 6 in May, it's now his second birthday that he's spending without his Mommy. I can't live without him and my husband. Thank you so much for your kind attention. Any help/advice will be greatly appreciated.