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Hello, I'm hoping someone can help prevent me from going insane. I met a girl on eHarmony who lives in Moscow. I'm a US citizen living in Florida. She is a Russian citizen, but she works for an American financial company and she has a 17 year old son (also a Russian citizen) who lives there with her. We've taken a few trips together and I proposed to her a couple of weeks ago when I visited her and met her family in Moscow. We were initially planning to get married in the spring. As I said, she works for an American company, so she'll be applying for a transfer to the States, but we don't know for sure if that will happen.
She's concerned about her son. He turns 18 next summer and she wants to make sure that he is able to get his visa to move here at the same time she does. She's afraid that once he turns 18, that might affect his ability to move here with her. She's been talking to her friends over there who have advised her that we need to go to Denmark and get married there in December, so that we can get a marriage certificate with an "apostille" that will be recognized by both Russia and the US. Then, we could apply for a spouse visa for her and a corresponding visa for her son so that she could move here as soon as the visa is approved.
The first question, then, is do we really need to rush? If her son turns 18, will that affect his ability to come here permanently when she does move here as my wife? I'd just prefer not to travel to Denmark in December to get married if possible since the weather could be brutal. A spring wedding there would be much more pleasant, and it would be much easier for me to have my son with me at a spring wedding than it would to get him there in December.
Next question - would we be better off to apply for the fiancee' visa and get married here within the 90 day window of her arrival, or to do this Denmark route where she'd go back home after the wedding and we'd then apply for a spouse visa? I'm thinking the fiancee' thing could be very complicated, because if it didn't line up perfectly with her job transfer (if it comes) then she'd have to go back home after the wedding, which I understand can be problematic until her adjustment of status goes through.
Any advice for us?
I'm very confused by all these different options.
She's concerned about her son. He turns 18 next summer and she wants to make sure that he is able to get his visa to move here at the same time she does. She's afraid that once he turns 18, that might affect his ability to move here with her. She's been talking to her friends over there who have advised her that we need to go to Denmark and get married there in December, so that we can get a marriage certificate with an "apostille" that will be recognized by both Russia and the US. Then, we could apply for a spouse visa for her and a corresponding visa for her son so that she could move here as soon as the visa is approved.
The first question, then, is do we really need to rush? If her son turns 18, will that affect his ability to come here permanently when she does move here as my wife? I'd just prefer not to travel to Denmark in December to get married if possible since the weather could be brutal. A spring wedding there would be much more pleasant, and it would be much easier for me to have my son with me at a spring wedding than it would to get him there in December.
Next question - would we be better off to apply for the fiancee' visa and get married here within the 90 day window of her arrival, or to do this Denmark route where she'd go back home after the wedding and we'd then apply for a spouse visa? I'm thinking the fiancee' thing could be very complicated, because if it didn't line up perfectly with her job transfer (if it comes) then she'd have to go back home after the wedding, which I understand can be problematic until her adjustment of status goes through.
Any advice for us?
I'm very confused by all these different options.
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