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A while ago, I met a terrific girl online. She is in China, and she is the sweetest, most beautiful girl I have ever met.
However, about two months ago, I broke up with her. No big deal, right? If we make up and forgive each other, we might still have a chance, right? Except... that... that's my SECOND time breaking up with her!
Neither of the reasons were very good, and I always felt horrible afterwards. However, for the past two months, I've been thinking to myself "It's too late, now; even if I wanted to take her back, it's too late, because after two break-ups, we'll never convince the embassies that our relationship is genuine."
Or can we?
I understand that it will not be easy. I understand that I must provide much more clear and convincing evidence that we are right for each other than normally, but is there a way to do it at all?
China wants me to go see her twice before they'll let her leave. What if I were to go see her THREE times, using my tax refund to fund my trip? Or what about four?
If I need to prove that I can financially support her for three years without her having to get a job, how about this:
When I graduate college, I can get an entry level job that pays $23 an hour. At 40 hours a week, and 50 weeks in a year, that's $46,000. Income taxes will knock my salary down to $36,500 for my first year (and that is just base salary, not counting other benefits, like RSU's, health care, and 401k). My student loans will be approximately $1,200 each month (it's an expensive school; the best of the best, hence how I can get such a good starting salary), or $14,400 a year, leaving me with a net, disposable income of $22,100 for the entire year. If I'm supposed to have 1.1 times the poverty level for the number of people living with us (a minimum of two), then divide that up, and that's like having approximately $20,000 a year and needing only 100% of the poverty level. This means that we can even have a child together, and we can still make financial ends meet.
I'm willing to spare no expense, and I'm willing to do whatever it takes (and I mean WHATEVER it takes) to prove that the past two break-ups were flukes, despite there being two of them. However, can it be done? At all? Period? It would make my day to email her and beg for her forgiveness.
Thank you in advance.
However, about two months ago, I broke up with her. No big deal, right? If we make up and forgive each other, we might still have a chance, right? Except... that... that's my SECOND time breaking up with her!
Neither of the reasons were very good, and I always felt horrible afterwards. However, for the past two months, I've been thinking to myself "It's too late, now; even if I wanted to take her back, it's too late, because after two break-ups, we'll never convince the embassies that our relationship is genuine."
Or can we?
I understand that it will not be easy. I understand that I must provide much more clear and convincing evidence that we are right for each other than normally, but is there a way to do it at all?
China wants me to go see her twice before they'll let her leave. What if I were to go see her THREE times, using my tax refund to fund my trip? Or what about four?
If I need to prove that I can financially support her for three years without her having to get a job, how about this:
When I graduate college, I can get an entry level job that pays $23 an hour. At 40 hours a week, and 50 weeks in a year, that's $46,000. Income taxes will knock my salary down to $36,500 for my first year (and that is just base salary, not counting other benefits, like RSU's, health care, and 401k). My student loans will be approximately $1,200 each month (it's an expensive school; the best of the best, hence how I can get such a good starting salary), or $14,400 a year, leaving me with a net, disposable income of $22,100 for the entire year. If I'm supposed to have 1.1 times the poverty level for the number of people living with us (a minimum of two), then divide that up, and that's like having approximately $20,000 a year and needing only 100% of the poverty level. This means that we can even have a child together, and we can still make financial ends meet.
I'm willing to spare no expense, and I'm willing to do whatever it takes (and I mean WHATEVER it takes) to prove that the past two break-ups were flukes, despite there being two of them. However, can it be done? At all? Period? It would make my day to email her and beg for her forgiveness.
Thank you in advance.
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